A trap you cannot escape: the women who regret motherhood
Mar 14th 2026
A hidden community of women are speaking quietly about regretting motherhood while still loving their children, citing isolation, health problems and unmet expectations; research and online groups show the experience is more common than public conversation suggests.
- Some mothers say they regret becoming parents while still loving and protecting their children.
- A 2023 Polish study estimated 5 to 14 percent of parents would choose to be childfree if they could decide again.
- Online groups such as I Regret Having Children attract tens of thousands who share anonymous stories and support.
- Common causes given are isolation, chronic exhaustion, lost identity, financial strain, and unmet expectations about parenting.
- Maternal regret can affect mental and physical health, and for some people the feeling remains despite therapy or lifestyle changes.
- Counsellors say therapy and practical support can ease regret for some, but the feeling may be long lasting for others.